5. “Family”

“Family.”  What does this word conjure up for you?  Laughter?  Pain?  Joy?  Feelings of being known, or feeling forgotten?  We all know families aren’t perfect, they all have a skeleton in their closet somewhere (some more obvious than others).  This past year, I have been incredibly blessed to have a group of friends come into my life here in Seattle and have become “family” to me.  In the summer of 2007, I moved across country by myself, only knowing one person in this city.  It was one of the hardest things I had ever done, and I was incredibly lonely.  I joined a community group through my church and it has changed my life.  This group of people, who come from all walks of life, have become my “family”.  They have supported me, loved me, been there through shit in my life, and have taught me what it means to be part of a “family“.  They have come to know me so well, I can’t hide anything from them.  I’ve experienced some definite healing from scars of past relationships within this community.  And having formed these roots has helped me to grow.
Your blood relatives “have” (or are obligated) to love you because of a common background.  However, when a group of people choose to love and support you regardless of your background, it can be incredibly healing and full of amazing encouragement.  The biggest key is “choice”.  Having someone choose to love you is humbling.  It is a reflection of how God chooses to love us, no matter what.  I am so thankful for these people in my life, they have been such a blessing from God.

Author: graceintherain

I'm follower of Christ learning about life, love, and grace in the rainy Northwest. I love coffee, good conversation, baking, and hanging out with my cat.

2 thoughts on “5. “Family””

  1. Hi,

    I am so happy that you have found such great friends there. I remember the feeling. When I moved to Orlando without knowing anyone it was scary and very lonely. I do have to disagree with you that family HAS to love you out of obligation. Nope, they don’t have to love you. I have family that doesn’t love me. I think loving someone is a choice that you can make no matter what the relationship.

    1. Thanks Casey, I’m really glad to find such great friends here as well. I think that there still is an obligation by blood relatives to love you, though they may choose not to, I know I personally feel more obligated to love someone if they have similar DNA to me (the whole “blood is thicker than water” mantra). It breaks my heart to hear that you have family that doesn’t love you, but I’m glad that you have found new “family” that loves you very much.

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